Let's see where I've got to with my goals for the year.
1) Get back to the gym.
I've been twice. Need to increase to 3 times a week minimum. I haven't started back onto a 5x5 routine but I've been doing the odd compound exercise here and there (primarily barbell squats) to re-establish my form. I'd forgotten how tiring it is, and how much it eats into your evening. It's necessary, though. I took photos of my "shape" as it stands, today. Not pretty. I mean, I like my men to have gravitas. I like bears. I just don't want to be one. On our "beach" holiday last year I was labelled a muscle daddy. At a stretch, I can live with that.
So, I'm on the road back to health and fitness. At 42, though, it may well be a long journey.
2) Write 6 new songs.
This is actually the goal that I think will be most challenging to me. I'm okay at writing half songs and interesting chord progressions, but I'm terrible at congealing ideas into fully-formed compositions. In fact, I don't think I've ever 100% finished a song before.
My biggest problem is that I over complicate things. The same three chords work for most pop songs. I'm not sure why I need to constantly try to reinvent the wheel.
I'm working on one piece now, which I think is going to be either instrumental or just acoustic guitar and voice... possibly even just two acoustic guitars. I have the bare bones of the song 90% complete. The final 10% is the hardest part.
Even so, I'm writing, which is the first step. I need to keep reminding myself that finishing is as important as starting.
3) Make more time for art and literature.
Ok. It's early days. I'm still busy with start-of-year chores and The Build. No progress.
4) Be more intimate with my husband.
I made a good start, then slipped backwards, partly because he's been ill with the flu. Mucus is not sexy. I want to be bonded to him by love, not snot.
5) Be more open to sexual encounters.
Ok, so this is tricky. Number Two is very keen to have a threesome in the very near future (possibly this weekend). He's even lined someone up (who am I kidding... he's lined up 4 or 5!). The main guy seems okay. Not really my type, but very keen to be spit-roasted, experience double-penetration and so on. I suspect, in a pinch, I could get it up.
What I want to make sure, though, is that for every guy Number Two finds that he likes and I'm so-so about, I get a bit of Quid Pro Quo. I want to be able to get it on with guys I fancy.
One major problem is that I find the whole internet hookup thing a challenge. I want to spend a couple of hours with someone prior to deciding to shag them. I like to get worked up. An alternative would be to choose someone from amongst the pool of guys we already socialise with. Unfortunately, most of those who have expressed an interest are one of a couple. Shagging someone's boyfriend just doesn't sound like a good idea to me. Too much scope for drama.
Finally 6) Find a cleaner.
We have a lead. There's a supposedly brilliant cleaner who does a few other flats in our building (including gay ones). We have her number. Just need to make the call and see if she can squeeze us in. Her English is reportedly terrible... Oh well.
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